Dear Members

We had a great start to our 2018 Workshop programme with the Confidence Workshop last week. 30 attendees and great career progression professionals sharing their knowledge.

Please have a look here to see what was on offer and to find the details of our partners who helped to make the event so successful.

The feedback from attendees was very positive, here is a testimonial from an attendee:

I found the day highly rewarding.  It was a great opportunity to focus on me and what I really wanted to achieve (+ what was stopping me!).  All this with great speakers, other like-minded individuals and the lovely Ten2Two team! 

If you didn’t manage to make it to the Confidence workshop but want to ‘kickstart’ your job search here is a list of our 2018 events for your diaries;

https://www.ten2two.org/sussex-2018-events-dates-diaries/

We look forward to seeing you at one of these events very soon

Kind regards Emma, Donna, Sharon and Hannah

The Ten2Two Team

www.Ten2Two.org

 

Our Workshop Partner’s details:

 

Claire Brewer Photography

www.clairebrewerphotography.co.uk
info@clairebrewerphotography.co.uk
07843 629525

Like and follow on:
FB: clairebrewerphotogaphy
Twitter: cbphotos

Instagram: clairebrewerphotography

Jane Mather – Makeup Artist and Image Consultant  

Mobile: 07906 505148

Website address is:  www.janemather.co.uk

Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/JaneMatherMakeupStyle

Twitter:  https://twitter.com/jm_makeup_style

Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/jm_makeup_style/

LinkedIn:  https://www.linkedin.com/in/matherjane

Freya Blom – Consultant. 

Career & Leadership Coach

Freya@FreyaBlom.com

07982 248333 (text or emails are best !)

www.FreyaBlom.com

 

Hilary Lees, CPCC, ACC – Essence Coaching

Career & Leadership Coach

Tel: 01580 752497

Website: www.essence-coaching.com

Facebook: www.facebook.com/EssenceCoachingUK

 

Useful Information

 Freya’s Info – Please remember: 

 

  • Which perspective/perceptual position would be most useful here? 1 (me) 2 (them) 3 (observer) 4 (birds eye biggest picture)
  • Meeting people is all about connection. If you aren’t grounded, connection is hard. Breathe, use your body, use your perspective.
  • Confidence, trust, growth mindset – everything is a muscle! steps are
    • 1) awareness of thing you did that was fixed mindset
    • 2) forgive self for what happened (crucial!)
    • 3) do something different next time (if you remember in time, otherwise steps 1 and 2 are just fine!)

 

Here are some useful resources:

 

Because putting yourself out there can feel vulnerable: Brene Brown – Power of vulnerability

Because there are some things you can’t do…YET!: Carol Dweck – Growth Mindset

Because you are not a flea!: Flea in a jar story

 

Hillary’s Info –

 

Self-confidence comes from knowing who you are, what you want and why you want it – and also from knowing who you are not and what you don’t want.

With this self-knowledge, you can make choices based on what is important to you and just as importantly influence, communicate and negotiate with other people out there in the world.

Our sense of confidence is also expressed through and affected by our body: even our posture can impact the levels of stress hormones and adrenalin in our bodies – helping us feel more or less confident.

Top tips for boosting your self-confidence:

 

  1.  Imagine success – Before an important event (like giving a presentation, an important meeting or an interview) close your eyes, and vividly imagine yourself knowing what you want to achieve, feeling totally confident and succeeding brilliantly. Bring all your senses into play. Our minds don’t know the difference between something VIVIDLY imagined and something real. You’ll be opening up the possibility for success by acting “as-if” you are confident. To help embed your feeling of confidence – is there a ritual, an image, an object or a piece of jewellery/clothing that you can use in the future to bring you back to this moment of feeling confident?
  2.  In almost any situation, preparation can help boost your confidence. Have to give a speech? Practice it several times, record yourself, and listen. Fail safely and learn from your first attempts. Ask a trusted friend for feedback. Meeting people for the first time? Check individuals and their organisations out on the internet, and check their social media profiles as well. It will help you get a sense of who they are, what they do and what’s important to them.
  3. As part of your preparation – strike a power pose! Scientific research has shown that standing tall and strong with your hands in the air (like a wining athelete) for just two minutes will give you an instant confidence boost—you might even want to invent your own power pose!
  4.  Remember your values – these are what’s really important to you and what makes you who you are. Bring together your strengths, skills, mission, and impact on others into one place – a visual, gesture or written list. These are what keep you strong and on track. Every meeting or interview is a two way discovery process when you seek to be true to yourself and find alignment with them, rather than persuade people you are someone you are not!

Ask your gremlin to stand down – if your gremlins or saboteurs are particularly noisy and insistent, pay attention to their message. These are often old “programmes” which are unskilfully trying to help or protect us. When you know what it’s purpose is, re-negotiate with it so that a stronger…

 

 

 

 

 

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